Do not look behind you. There are no rear view mirrors in this life. No one is going to remember that you once owned an advertising agency, published a book, had a successful morning radio show, sold your own real estate, or wrote a memoir. No one cares what you did yesterday, neither should you. Take a moment and grieve your losses, shed a few tears if you must. Then wipe your eyes, wash your face, and put aside all of the old injustices. All they do is collect dust, and get in the way of the important things in your life – the things that you should be focusing on right now. Focus on today and the great things that you are going to accomplish. There are no more yesterdays, and tomorrow may never even get here. None of us on this earth are promised the next five minutes. Right now is the only time you have, and you are the only person you have to rely on.
Buffington, Lisa J. (2012-07-10). The Black Bear Diaries (Kindle Locations 201-217). . Kindle Edition.
Taken from Chapter 3 of “The Black Bear Diaries”
There are so many paths in life to choose from – how can we be assured that we are on the right one? That is a very good and often a very difficult question for many of us to answer. The right path should challenge you to grow, allow you to think, invite you to participate, and give you a sense of peace on your journey. It may not be an easy path, it may not be a comfortable path, but it should feel inexplicably like your path. You should not be on that path for any other person’s sake. You should be on it because that is where you feel you fully belong. Your path should feel like a journey, not an unwanted burden. That is not saying that your path will not contain any hard work, or any bumps and bruises along the way. But your path should not be one of continual self sacrifice without any kind of reward or growth opportunity. I am not suggesting that you should seek an easy road, because choosing a path for pure leisure will just bog you down and in the end you will realize just how foolish you’ve been. The purpose of seeking the right path is to allow the gifts that were placed inside of you a chance to grow into fruition to benefit not only your life, but the lives of others on the paths around you. Give, share, learn, grow and cultivate your spirit – but do it all on the path you were destined to take.
Those of us who feel driven should never stop in our pursuit of true happiness. What drives us makes us who we are. I can’t tell you the number of times that my inner spark has caused other people to feel uncomfortable or question my motives, reasons, sanity… seriously fill in the blank with whatever you wish. I have lost jobs, friends, family, lovers………. many of whom have been known to look at me with concern and say “but I thought you would have outgrown that by now”. Answer me this – how can a person outgrow themselves? What a conundrum it would be if during our maturation process, our personalities succeed in turning us into a different person than who we truly were to begin with. To me that is an insane thought. Growing up does not mean trading in who we are for someone new. It’s a shame, but until we realize who we are and what we have inside of us, many of us will never become the person we were meant to be. When you hear or see that famous expression “go for it” – that’s not a question- it’s an answer.
I dropped in to visit with a friend yesterday morning. Upon my arrival, she exclaimed “Oh, thank God you are here. You are my savior.” We both joked about her flattery of me and how lucky we are to call each other friend…” But tonight it hits me just how dangerous that statement and mind set can be. We are never another person’s savior. Nor is anyone else ever to play that role for us. Each person who comes into our lives is one link in a chain of events that accompanies our progress and helps to illuminate or desecrate the path on which we travel. Our attention should never be exclusively on those people who surround us. Our guiding focal point should always be inside. Why do we care so much what others may or may not think of us? I’ll tell you the truth, other human beings do not consider us or our needs as much as we like to think they do. We are all so self absorbed, as well we should be. For if we haven’t figured out who we are and what we are doing here, how can we be of any use to any one or any thing around us? It is an impossibility. Each of us is just one link. If we were to strengthen ourselves, the chain to which we belong would become that much stronger and the whole of humanity would be a better species indeed. When we truly honor ourselves, it increases our strength, elasticity, and vitality. It helps all of us move forward to a more enriched environment and a higher level of living. We shouldn’t be trying to be anyone’s savior, we should just be working on making ourselves a stronger link. That way the chain is beneficial to us all.
What are we drawn to? That is our essence. What do we surround ourselves with? That is our future. We should not shy away from any lifestyle that we honestly crave. The only question to be asked is – do we know ourselves enough to distinguish between honesty and superficiality? By getting to the core of our hearts, we can begin to unfold all of our inner most desires and that exploration is the key to becoming our ultimate best, our highest level of functioning and joy.